[Pictures below, and comments in brackets were not part of the original Salon article]
African American Georgia State troopers at KKK rally; with innocent child dress in costume, primarily worn by terrorist/racist Americans
I am a recovering racist: I was somehow taught hate as a gift of love.
“I grew up in the segregated South. It took a question from an 11-year-old to teach me how I really felt about it.”
By Jonathan Odell (from Salon.com)
As a native Mississippian and recovering racist, I finally discovered why a seemingly innocuous thing like a state (Confederate) flag can bring out the absolute worst in us.
It took a group of 11-year-old students to teach me that lesson.
After reading about my most recent novel dealing with race in Jim Crow Mississippi, the principal of a private school in Minneapolis invited me to speak with his fifth-grade students.
All the classes had been studying the Civil Rights Movement.
He said, “I read an interview with you in the newspaper and you said you were a recovering racist. Would you come talk to our kids about your experiences?”
Got it, I thought. They need a token racist.
I agreed, but I was anxious.
The principal was honest. He explained that his kids were Caucasians, and affluent Minnesotans.
They assume they are not racist because they come from good families, but the only people of color they ever see are the ones who clean their houses, cook their food and tend their lawns.
The kids were attentive, well-behaved and terrifyingly self-assured for 11-year-olds.
I spent a good half–hour sharing my memories of growing up in the segregated town of Laurel, Mississippi, in the 1950s and ‘60’s, emphasizing the politically correct messages I was sure their teachers wanted the students to hear.
Then, just when I figured I had drawn out all the moral lessons they were capable of grasping, one emboldened kid asked me something that, at least momentarily, left me speechless.
It was the type of direct yet guileless question only folks who have not learned to be politically correct could ask.
“Did you like having your own special place in the restaurant when you were growing up?”
He was referring to the nicer, cleaner, air-conditioned “Caucasians only” sections I sat in, while African Americans had their food shoved at them through a window that opened into the alley.
“Like it?”
I responded.
At first the question seemed irrelevant.
What did it matter if I enjoyed it?
The point is, it was wrong.
But from the way all the kids’ eyes lit up, I could tell the class wanted me to address the boy’s question.
He had drawn an adult off script and they couldn’t wait to see how I responded.
I knew what I was supposed to say:
“No. I did not enjoy it.”
I was supposed to tell him that it was wrong, and that it’s a horrible thing to discriminate against people like that.
“We’re all losers when that happens,” I was supposed to say.
But the boy’s instincts were right.
And fifth graders know when you are lying to them.
“Yes,” I admitted.
“It felt good.”
“I felt like I was on the winning team or voted most popular. I never thought of it before, but yes, it made me feel special.”
I glanced at the teachers in the room. They seemed concerned. This was not going the way they had anticipated.
A girl raised her hand.
“Did a African American person, ever have to give up her seat so you could sit down?”
It was obvious they had been studying Rosa Parks.
I was still off balance from the first question, editing my race history to include the fact that I liked segregation for the feelings of superiority it gave me.
The thought was disorienting.
“Yes!” I answered, and knowing where she was going with her question, I continued. “I liked that, too.“
“To see a grown man offer me his seat because I was more important than he was a good feeling.”
Before I entered the classroom that day, I felt it was enough to have condemned my past, along with those old Caucasian men who had created my racist world.
After all, I was born into that society. I didn’t have a choice. I had to follow the rules.
I’m certainly not to blame for it.
I figured a little liberal guilt was enough to buy my redemption.
But the kids’ questions presented me with a moral dilemma. I was not a neutral or innocent bystander after all, even as a child.
My enjoyment of the privileges testifies to that. In addition, it became clear to me that I got my seat because someone was forced to give up his.
For every meal I was served in the pristine restaurant, somebody had to eat theirs in an alley.
My college scholarship came at the expense of some field hand’s son who couldn’t afford to finish the eighth grade.
Each time I benefited because of my skin complexion, an African-American paid because of his dark skin.
Guilt or moral repugnance is not enough.
There is a real debt to be paid.
But the hardest thing to admit was that my racism and its inherent privileges were gifted to me by devoted parents, dedicated teachers, righteous preachers—an entire Caucasian community conspired to make me feel special.
These were good people. How could I turn on them?
What a conundrum! That would make racism a gift of love!
As toxic as those gifts were, they were presented to me out of love, by someone I loved.
What adult, much less child, doesn’t want to feel special?
What child is going to say, “No, I don’t want your gift because it takes away from others!”
We hunger for the experience of feeling special and are grateful to those who see that special-ness within us.
No wonder it’s so hard to uproot racism from our souls.
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If we had acquired our racism from folks we detested:
the monsters of the world,
the lynchers and
the church-bombers,
the murderous, tobacco-spitting sheriff, or
the buffoonish sheet-shrouded Klan member, or
our race-baiting governor standing in the schoolhouse door,
how easy it would be to denounce our racism and to leave that kind of destructive thinking behind.
But it’s not the villains we must reckon with.
Our role models were people we loved and trusted, those whom we allowed into our souls without question.
It’s an elderly Caucasian neighbor whom I loved dearly, telling me that her African American yardman, Joe, was not to be referred to as a “Mister.”
My schoolteacher who acted like it was the right thing, the appropriate thing, the moral thing for her students to have nice schools and new textbooks and a school bus, while the African American kids went to class in dilapidated buildings, used our castaway textbooks and walked to school regardless of the weather.
It was my preacher who told us to love people of African descent, but that God wanted the blood of the Caucasian race to remain pure.